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DECISIONS, DECISIONS, DECISIONS

1 Mar

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Decision-making is governed by intellect, emotions, morals and common sense, as well as a few other determinants.

To revisit the subject of contemplation explored in (Dec. 2014) post: (Are We Too Busy to Think?) I piggybacked off 95.5/WPLJ host Bill Ayres’s recent Sunday night call-in radio show, which featured the topic of decisions.

A caller discussed listening to the inner voice in our heads that we don’t always heed. Not when it cautions us to grab our umbrellas when we’re convinced it won’t rain before we returm.

No, Ayres wanted to focus on the really important, big decisions in life. We know right from wrong but when it comes to basic decisions, when there’s two ways to go about something that could cause us to face a consequential dilemma no matter which one we decide upon — those require solid decisiveness.

Sometimes we don’t know how to make decisions, what to weigh or how much weight to give each pro or con. Such situations steer some people to therapy.

There is a reason why youth is wasted on the young. Decisions can be black , white or gray for them. The middle or gray area is where it can get tricky, though, even if contemplated. People do make rash decisions without looking at all the angles, akin to leaping into a pool before checking to see if there’s water in it.

They can make those unwise critical decisions while they’re still able to rebound, whereas someone older might not have the same opportunity or resiliency. The younger you are the freer you are to make these and the better chance you have to “fix” them.

The problems bad decisions create can be repaired more expeditiously and likely more fully. Many times that’s not an option for a more mature adult, who has to make much wiser decisions and not expect to be able to easily correct unwise ones. That’s why wisdom isn’t wasted on older adults.

A single female neighbor “of a certain age,” as Wendy Williams often refers, moved cross-country to be with a guy, who unbeknowst to her had another woman. A Big foolish decision, though fixable, and a major setback. She’d sold her home and put her furniture in storage.

You may be too close to a situation to truly see it clearly a lot of the time. We’ve all no doubt, been guilty of that. For example, I reminded a cousin of the obvious when she told me her sister had informed her that her fiancé was cheating.

Not one to ever give advice I wouldn’t follow myself, I just recounted a scenario wherein the same sibling’s mate had purportedly strayed and she didn’t leave. Yet, she was adamant that she should.

Why hadn’t her sister done what she was urging her to do? The final decision was hers, not mine or her sister’s. Life’s decisions are the most difficult, and  good or bad, often have repercussions. We might not understand them when they arise, since they may potentially be far-reaching, affecting the present and the future.

The best measures of well-made decisions, I think are those you:

1)                  don’t regret

2)                  wouldn’t go back and change if you could

3)                  don’t suffer any negative lingering affects from and

4)                  believe you made the best decision at the time

They’re still never 100%. We second-guess ourselves and our decisions. It makes us human. You learn from decisions that might not have turned out as you would’ve hoped, and hopefully, make better decisions going forward.

2012: A Year of Historic Milestones…

4 Jan

• The 100th centennial of the Titanic’s disastrous sinking, in which over 1500 of more than 2,200 onboard lost their lives—leading to life-saving lifeboat regulations for luxury liners.
• And 15 years after the original release of James Cameron’s now modern classic 1997 Titanic movie, a 3-D version of the colossal epic was re-released early last year.
• The 100-year anniversary of Hollywood’s founding—by a group of New York City producers who left NY for California in 1912 to ‘avoid a patent trust’ and lay the groundwork for the movie-making capital of the world.
• The 25-year commemoration of “King of Pop” Michael Jackson’s BAD album—that became the fifth biggest selling LP of all time.
• The 35th anniversary of cult dance film Saturday Night Fever, and its phenomenal-selling soundtrack that ignited the disco era. Also, the passings of “Queen of Disco” Donna Summer and Robin Gibb of the Bee Gees, both of whom greatly influenced the music scene of the ’70s.
• The 15-year milestone for the Lion King Broadway production, which was celebrated with a first-time ever interactive exhibit “Inside Lion King,” featuring actual costumes, music and dance styles from the visually spectacular musical benchmark.
• The 20th year commemoration of Bryant Park’s journey from neglect to resurgence—to become one of the best year-round venues for events and activities, as well as a favored oasis for city dwellers, which was displayed in 86 images along the Park’s exterior fence.
• The 200th birthday of literary icon Charles Dickens (1812-1870), author of A Christmas Carol and Oliver Twist.
*NYPL curators cite “[Dickens’] works are adapted more often than those of Shakespeare,” and that 20th century filmmakers credit him with having “developed several cinematic techniques, including panning, close-ups and montage.” In addition, “Dickens’ serialized novels were so popular during his lifetime; they were pirated for the stage before he even finished them.”
• Jan. 1st, marks 150-years since the “Emancipation Proclamation” was issued by President Abraham Lincoln in 1863, as the nation was in the throes of the Civil War. It declares “all persons held as slaves” (within states that had seceded from the Union) “are, and henceforward shall be free.”

A Mis-forecast Day

12 Oct

I should know better than to believe reports of bad weather by unreliable weather forecasters, as they always overly exaggerate its severity. After hearing their projections I ventured out last weekend, expecting bitter 50 degree temperatures all day, only to be welcomed by a surprisingly lovely and mildly cool Fall afternoon.

Although I was saddled with a heavy jacket I could have done without, because I didn’t feel like getting in the elevator again and going back to change. And I was swayed too,  into toting along an umbrella–for good measure–which I also didn’t need since there was just a little mist in the air.

Coming out of the door, I stumbled upon a streetfair literally steps away right on 8th Ave, before I made my way to Bryant Park. Sitting there for a while I enjoyed the slightly overcast, yet beautifully bright day.

Thankfully, I did not listen to their awful predictions that it would be dreary, chilly and wet. Otherwise, I might have missed the pleasure of a mis-forecast Autumn Sunday in New York City.

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